I wanted to make the kiddies coming to our wedding, something special that they could keep but also something functional to keep them busy.
This noughts and crosses set is perfect.
It gets stored in a simple drawstring hessian bag that you can decorate with perminent marker.
On the front our wedding date and at the back the lines for the game.
You can use any stones but as we in Cape Town and Scratch Patch is right on our doorstep I’ve decided to use gem stones.
I hope the kiddies like their thank you favours 😋
I just love these barefoot Sandler.
So how to go about recreating them for my bridal party?
Using a hessian stein plait a long strand.
Next start by placing under toe, cross over the top . At this cross stitch together with cotton matching string . Now tie up leg.
Pep sell really cheap platinum flowers and so by grabbing a bunch you can cut them off and glue with bostic in place.
Happy walking 👣
Somewhere during the course of last week I agreed to let Dbear and the gf babysit bear this Friday.
It seemed like a good idea.
So , in reality , I’d actually arranged 4 sitters for bear.
Date night set.
Round about Wednesday ,Papa started asking what I wanted to do for date night? This was also round about the same time the butterflies moved into my stomach and my nerves began to get the better of me.
What happened if bear cried, or wouldn’t go to sleep? What happened if he needed us or got hurt or …. (and here you can honestly just fill in with words that sound like mommy guilt and paranoia)
I wasn’t sure it was such a great idea and didn’t give too much more thought to it.
Until papa booked the movie tickets!
Now there was no going back. Sneaky man , books the tickets online so I couldn’t back out of this .😉
Dbear and gf arrived just as papa bear pulled up with the other bears. I was half ready , dreanched in mommy guilt and secretly wondering how to get out of this.
Before I knew it Dbear was cooking, the bears were settling and bear was eating his supper from gf.
Guess I had no choice but to get ready.
As I pasted on a quick face and brushed my hair i started to feel human. Less mommy bun harassed and my anxiety was quickly replaced with an excitement.
I love dressing up and haven’t had too much time to do that lately.
I also love spending time with papa . This would be our first few hours alone in 9 months.
The nagging mommy guilt brought me right back to the reality that for a few hours of quality time with papa I was about to abandon my poor bear into the land of the unknown.
As we closed the door and headed to the car, I realised I was just being paranoid. Bear was surrounded by 4 responsible people who love and adore him.
I resolved to focus all my attention on papa. After all with a demanding toddler in the house it’s easy to forget each other.
It was strange not having to check bear was in the car seat correctly before starting the car.
But within seconds I’d relaxed enough to thoroughly start enjoying the evening.
Our date night was nothing extrodinary in the eyes of many…but for me it was perfect.
An evening alone to connect with the man I love. Sushi and a movie.
Papa even pulled out my chair and we held hands , something we don’t often get to do now as our arms are usually full of baby paraphernalia.
I tried not to overthink the unimaginable and stopped myself 300 times from reaching for my phone and checking all was OK at home.
I had my first meal in 9 months not having to gulp it down because my attention was needed . I came away from the meal without the stains of a self feeding toddler. And I sat through an entire movie without interruption ….it was wonderful.
Truthfully I was sorry the night ended so soon (four hours later) and we walked to the car imagining the chaos our home was in, certain bear would be awake.
But it was even more amazing to come home to a clean home, sleeping bear and 3 bears and the gf cuddled up on my bed.
What did I learn ?
I learnt that in every relationship you need to focus on each other. Papa and I love our time as a family but we need that time alone to reconnect as to why we fell in love with each other to start with. Putting each other first is just as vital as raising bear.
I learnt that bear will survive a few hours without me. That others are capable of looking after him and that I need to let go a little and trust those around him who love him.
I learnt that mommy guilt will rob you of enjoying the moments without your children if you let it.
I learnt that I raised responsible , loving, capable bears .
I learnt that I can survive bear being babysit!
Those who’ve met my older bears know that, like their mama they can be a little unconventional.
So I didn’t flinch when I received the following conversation from Dbear….
Dbear ” Hello!”
Dbear “Are you home ”
Dbear “woman who gave birth to me ”
Followed by my response at 5.20pm
Me “yes child of my womb”
It seems by my response if he was in grave danger I’d have missed his call due to the survival need to cook a meal.
But , as it was only mild hysteria all was good and mom could save the day.
He was stuck in traffic and his girlfriend was headed my way for supper. Could she arrive early without him please.
I’m unsure why he needed to ask but I took his thoughtfulness and as I really like her had no problem with them arriving two hours early for supper.
Imagine my suprise when I’m greeted at the door by both her and her mom.
Inward I was cursing the boy… if I’d known a mama was coming too I’d have brushed the mommy bun down , made up my face and prehaps not answered the door in baby supper stained track wear and just my socks.
I must have given the look away on my face as gf mama kept apologising for interrupting.
I fetched bear from upstairs, got ready to boil the kettle and we started chatting.
Before I knew it gf mamma and I had bonded over the drunken mentor of Katnis Evergreen, divulged our Steven king secrets and right off discovered that we shared a birthday.
Half an hour later we were still laughing at our odd mamma jokes before gf mamma went off to a meditation class and I headed to fold paper boats for the wedding.
All in all I have to say , this certainly was one of the nicer suprises at my door.
And supper ….well that never happened as the kids had other plans 😂😂
And what do you expect ….
With 7 kids life is certainly not boring 😉
I remember a few times when my bears were younger waking up overwhelmed before the day had started.
There seemed to be so much to do . So little time to do it in. Everyone needing a part of me and me still wanting to try to save a little of my own sanity and independence in the day.
I did all my own housework. Home schooled my brood , often I was crafting for money , helping to run my ex husbands business or working flexible time .
I devoted my time to my husband, home and family .
Was I resentful?…. some days. Was I over whelmed? …always. Did I feel I’d failed misribly as a wife and mother?…. daily!
Yes I screamed at my children when I should have sat patiently with them. Yes I impatiently brushed them aside to try get a few seconds to myself . Yes I sometimes didn’t care why they were fighting with each other …I needed a break.
I was and am only human.
6 kids, a husband, work and teaching took its toll. I was tired, sometimes depressed and always busy.
I made mistakes.
If you a mom whose in the same situation right now and you feel lost, alone and like your kids deserve better….
Let me tell you
If I look back , those moments were few compared to the days we laughed and joked.
They are out weighed by the memories of my kids in the kitchen baking or all of us crafting on the lounge floor. I remember more moments of fun outings and bathroom splashes than I do of shouting to pick up the mess.
It’s not easy mamma…
Motherhood demands great sacrifices but I promise you it’s worth every minute.
So , remember …
When you feel you not enough, when the world seems to big and you convinced you’re the worst mamma in the world
Those little eyes are looking up at you thinking how much they love their perfect mamma😍
Today …know that YOU ARE ENOUGH!
I sort of laughed when I chose this topic to write about. Not because I don’t enjoy spending hours making myself feel like a beauty queen but because I’m a mom….most days I’m lucky if I get into the bathroom let alone spend 4 hours making myself presentable.
So, fellow mamas here’s how my skin care routine works.
Wake up and splash cold water on face. Brush teeth .
Settle bear and when I have a few spare moments. ..
Apply a small bit of Clicks anti aging face wash to my hands. Wipe into skin and rinse off with warm water. Wipe over face with Clicks anti aging toner on a cotton wool pad and apply Clicks anti aging moisteriser. I never forget the Clicks anti aging eye cream . (It does wonders for those sleepless nights)
I don’t wear foundation and hardly wear make up so I don’t need a make up remover to remove the old make up at night. Occasionally I’ll remember I have night cream and apply .
Ive used a lot of products over the years and my two tips would be …
Never use a beauty soap on your face. Always have a decent face wash. This doesn’t need to cost a fortune (mine is R79 a bottle) it just needs to be the correct formula for your face.