Little bears dedication adventure

I began planning bears dedication long before he was born. 
What I imagined

In my mind i saw the beautiful ceremony in the same church I’d dedicated his 6 siblings, visions of his huge smile as the minister lifted him in his white suit to pray for him playing over and over.

After his beautiful ceremony  I imagined a simple reception with family and friends decorated stylishly with a nautical theme. 

I even went so far as to design the cute invite and send it out. Ensuring that everyone knew ahead of time to save the date.

Plan B

Not long after I’d sent the invite, his godmother fell pregnant and baby was due in September so we naturally changed the date. 

Bringing his dedication much sooner and with that a new look at our available budget.

I chose my grandmother’s birthday ,21 May and was happy to see it fell on a Sunday. I have to say by now I was a little over trying to please everyone and we decided that if people couldn’t make it we weren’t changing the date again.

But I really wanted him to be surrounded by his full exstended family and God parents.

This also didn’t give me much time to replan with a much smaller budget as we wouldn’t have time to save for the extra 4 months.

I began to plan again

 The origional church I’d planned  hadn’t gotten back to me and reluctantly i chose another church who could do the dedication ceremony that weekend…. but … I wasn’t happy.

Our venue was able to move the dedication forward but our new hardly existent budget meant I was batteling to find a menue everyone would eat and still afford a cake. 

My decor went from amazing to bare minimum. I wanted everything perfect and started looking for DIY options.

Something was wrong 

Something was wrong ,and my heart wasn’t into planning  this elaborate event . 

I became tearful at the thought of having something less than what I’d imagined.

I really wanted his 3 God parents present but I didn’t want an event I’d been planning way before his birth to be a thrown together event because we were rushing.

I cancelled

In tears the one afternoon I finally threw my toys out the cot (yes….this mom lost her shit) and between tears of frustratiom and the realisation that my boys dedication would be something less than what I had planned for him, I told Pappa to cancel.

Right there in that moment I didn’t care if I had to wait a year … this was not the dedication I wanted for him.

I explained  that as I worked on his dedication plans I felt more and more annoyed, stressed and just sad.

We had only invited family but I felt it was becoming less about the ceremony and more about making everyone happy. (Which you know is never possible). 

My whole beautiful dedication ceremony was becoming  a very costly event with none of the original simplicity and ideas. It was rushed and now everything was changed to fit our new much tighter budget.

So we cancelled

I don’t remember what excuse we used just that the pit in my stomach disappeared and was replaced with a calm knowledge that I could dedicate bear when he was a little older.

 A new plan

A few days later papa phoned his mom in Durban ….bears gran is very active in her church and one of the few people who would have understood the meaning behind his beautiful dedication  ceremony.

 That nagging feeling in my heart came back and as he placed the phone down, I said” lets do the dedication in your moms church.”

I had no idea if the church could accommodate us or what the pastor would need and it meant  we would have to drive to Durban  from Cape Town.

 It also meant that none of the ideas  I had planned would be included in his dedication. No family, no siblings, no friends , no large ceremony with its nautical theme.

Road trip

Papa looked at me, mostly in shock and asked a hundred times if I was sure. I could see in his eyes he loved my idea, but he also knew how important it was for me to have this perfect.

 We started planning our road trip.

For the first time since changing the date I was excited. This felt right. We would still be able to keep the date -my grandmother’s birthday and he would be dedicated in her happy place …Scottsburgh 

Plan C

It was going to be a suprise and so bears gran had no idea we were coming.

To achieve this we would need to get all our ducks in a row long before arriving in Scottsburgh.  We phoned papas cousin T and with her help we were able to  get the churchs contact number and suprise his gran by just arriving at her door on the Friday. 

I phoned the church when we arrived at our friend in Umtata and together with the pastor and office we set up the suprise dedication for that Sunday. 


The Friday I posted on my Facebook that we were on the road. People assumed as we had been travelling for a week prior that our road trip had ended and we were headed home.

As we got outside her door, I tagged her in a suprise we here photo, she was genuinely shocked as we buzzed and she heard Pappas voice. 

We shouted SUPRISE  for the first time that weekend.

The joy in seeing her grandson was wonderful and I was reassured that this was indeed the perfect dedication plan.

Saturday she gave bear his dedication gifts a bible and silver money box. I resisted the urge to spill the beans , especially when I saw her disappointment at his dedication being cancelled.

We met with T and I was able to arrange the very first cake I’d chosen to be baked. Secret whatsapp messages  bounced between our hushed conversations. 

And more surprises 

Sunday finally arrived and bears gran was trying to get out of attending church. I nearly choked.  How to convince her without being to obvious or revealing the secret.

Finally just before 8am we bundled into the car and headed to church.

We stepped into the warmest reception of people, most aware of the upcoming suprise and winking at us.  Smiles and welcome arms surrounded us and i felt an emotion of joy overwealm me …. please dont let me cry 😂

The pastor took us aside and told us how the ceremony would go and bears gran was happy to see her sister  and family fill the pew next to us.

The service began with well known hymns  and I surveyed the beautiful blue flower arrangements placed on either side of the stage.  Suddenly the pastor called bears gran up to the stage and asked her if she knew why she was called up, her confused reaction indicated …no

“We here to dedicate your grandson ” he stated and called us up to join.

The ceremony

Bears gran began to cry which set me off and as the pastor prayed his dedication over our precious bear i realised this was exactly what I wanted.

There was no white dedication suite , no sharing the same church and pastor as his siblings but there was the one thing I’d wanted to achieve ….

Bear was surrounded by love on his special day.

A time to celebrate

We left the church and headed to T’s home where she had set up a beautiful table with the cross cake just as I’d wanted. 

As i sat down to enjoy a piece of cake papa pointed out that T’s whole home is decorated with a nautical theme . I got my nautical theme after all.

Bear proudly held his certificate for photos and even did a mini cake smash with his first real taste of cupcakes as he enjoyed playing with his cousins. 

As for us …. We could finally tell everyone the real reason for our road trip and share our second suprise that weekend. 


6 creative numbers for a birthday party 

As bear celebrates his first birthday in September I’ve been trolling Pintrest and party sites looking for ideas to make his first birthday a fabulous memory.

Along the way I came across these 6 adorable ideas that can be adjusted for any party and age.
1 photo collage

Use your little ones age and a group of photos taken that year to design a collage to represent the number of years they turning.

2 cookie cutter cake sprinkles

Using the correct number cookie cutter as a stencil, place cutter onto an iced cake and fill with sprinkles to form your child’s age.

3 balloon age door decoration

Let your friends know which house is hosting the party by spelling out your little ones age on the door with balloons. I find using a strong tape like insulation tape works better than clear sellotape.

4 number cake topper

From card cut your child’s age and glue onto a sosati stick. Use this as a cake topper or decorations in jars on the table.

5 tissue fluff puff birthday sign

OK so I couldn’t resist the name….all those puffs reminded me of the 80s but this is a fantastic decor item. Scrunch up tissues of tissue paper squares to look like puffs and glue onto a cardboard cut out number.

6 lego door sign

This one is great for older kids , lego or Mine craft party ideas. Use a baseboard and design your child’s age on it. Older kids can do this themselves. Use a glue gun to attach ribbon to hang.

Happy party planning mammas.


National Donut day

Thursday was National Donut Day and I was eager to give bear his first donut. (Not that I like him having that much sugar ….but for one day it seemed acceptable )

Papa bear was sent on search to our local Dunkin Donuts. An hour later he reappeared with a yummolicious box of donut treats .

I chose the white lemon one as bear isn’t much of a chocolate fan.  Placed it on his ‘big boy ‘plate and served him at his table. 

He instinctively grabbed at the donut. Sticky white frosting sticking to his hands.

This made its way to his mouth, and as soon as he got one taste of the sticky morsel he grabbed that poor unsuspecting donut and tried to shove the whole thing in his mouth.

Thankfully there was more frosting on his hands and the floor than in his stomach. 😂😂😂


world ocean day 

World Ocean Day falls on the 8 June this year and we joined an Early awareness program on Saturday, by cleaning our local beach at Eden on Bay with Bianca Peace from PACT and the Clean C group.

As ocean lovers we have joined many beach clean ups over the last 2 years , with the exception of my bulging pregnant stomach and broken ankle and leg.

Greg and his team’s of volunteers are spread at most major beaches on the first Saturday of each month. To join a clean up group you can find them on Facebook 


It always amazes me at the dirt and no matter how many times we clean you can always fill another bag. 
With gloves and bags provided you are encouraged to walk out collecting litter along the beach and dunes.  Sadly the largest amount of litter we found was next to the bins and hundreds of cigarette stompies everywhere. 

I encourage the bears to join as i want them to know they can make a difference no matter his small it is. It’s important to me that they respect their environment and take responsibility towards a cleaner future for their own children one day.

This world ocean day you don’t need to wait for a special group or event, just grab a bag, head to your local beach and clean up a small patch. Teach your children to respect and love their ocean. Join one of the group’s above and see how you can help .

And if you are a smoker ….please can I leave you with this thought from the ocean creatures left to swallow the cigarette stompies you so casually discard along the shoreline, 

Would you let your child play with your ashtray ? No ?! Then why throw your ashtray in your child’s ocean sandbox ?