An early Spur celebration 

This weekend saw the start of papas anual weekend away with the soccer guys. This meant Bear and I would be alone at home.

I had hoped Kiki and Monkey would come for the weekend as I’m not a fan of  staying alone but  with both of them having German measles that wasn’t an option. 

So , It was just Bear and I. 


Early birthday celebrations

Friday morning , after quickly grabbing a few birthday gifts for the weekends birthday parties,  we collected my bestie P and headed to start our weekend.

A quick stop in at a Mommy and me tea and then to the mall.

Early birthday suprise

I decided to do a party for one at the local Spur. Bear was quickly seated with his Totem teepee pictures to colour ( and wax fatties to throw on the ground) , Indian brave headdress on his head and hungry tummy waiting to tuck into his plate of smilies. 

Ice cream smash

He had a ball and I secretly noted that he must be getting bigger as he hadn’t moaned yet to get out the baby chair. 😂😂

All too soon he was done and ready for his Chico the clown ice cream. (After all what is a kiddies birthday without Chico? )

Out of nowhere the sound of clapping and chanting caused poor bear to stop colouring and look with horror as the entire Spur staff quota made their way towards us singing happy birthday to him.

He was proudly presented with a sparkly ice cream (which also caught the serviette on fire 😄) 

Just this once,I sat back and allowed him the privilege of  a non OCD mom and handed him his spoon to tuck into the ice cream.

The look of delight on his face was gianormous. 

 I don’t actually think he spooned any ice cream into his mouth but he did manage to stick his hand in it, gets some on his nose  and try share with me. 

Finally we tidied up the melted mess and he received his toy … I’m not sure yet how he’s going to use the wax sticks but that’s a problem for another  day.


Guess who slept in his own cot ? 

After almost a year of sharing our bed last night  I confidently put bear into his cot…

….We both survived! !!!!


I’ll admit that the motivation behind his transition to cot had more to  do with the fact that I couldn’t breathe, my throat felt like fire and someone was blazing matches into my eardrums … the thought of a now well bear catching this virus again scared me more than a few tears of protest from him.

And honestly …. I just wanted to sleep !!

Lead up

Having said that though, I have been concidering the move for the last week or so. He really is getting too big to be in our bed and sleeps well in the cot at school.

Blanket fort

So over the weekend I turned his cot on its side, threw over a blanket and taa daa…

….a blanket fort.

He loved the fort and spent hours going in and out with his trucks and cars.

Mamma even abandoned the adult world and climbed in with him.

Time will tell

Night one done and dusted and here’s holding thumbs for night two. After all it only takes two weeks for a habit to form and maybe now this mamma will get more sleep 😉


2am the hour for poets and teething baby mamas. …

Its 2am

For the last 45 minutes I’ve been rocking a miserable,  feverish, weepy eyed congested bear. 

Those top two teeth are in a lock down battle with his gums and as I rocked him gently back to sleep sent a silent curse to the tooth fairy to let her know just what kind of a b*tch I think she is.

Toothache is one of the worst pains and I can only imagine what our poor little mini human must be going through.

Feeling very sorry for myself for now being wide awake the contemplation of freezing while going to the loo is a hard dilemma as lay under the warm duvet. 

Afraid to move, knowing even the slightest movement will cause a misrible bear to stir and scream out from the pits of toothy pain hell. 

Too cold to move and truthfully too exhausted to breathe let alone make the ten steps to the bathroom.

Eventually, my child producing body could no longer hold the demands of my “too much coffee at bedtime ” bladder and I must venture the darkened room towards the bathroom.

Quietly and very slowly I raised myself from the bed. Holding my breath in fear that my movement would wake bear. 

And off to the loo….

I wondered as I sat on the icy seat how many mamas were awake doing the pj drill with me?

How many mamas would be holding their eyelids open in the morning trying to get through a day of mundane work and house chores dreaming of a few uninterrupted hours of pure blissful sleep ?

As I write this , I’ve sprayed bears nose twice . I’ve cuddled him more and I’ve watched as he moaned in his sleep.

I doubt I’m getting much sleep tonight mamas 

And as for that tooth fairy …..

Im not a fan 


Moms and babes Tableview

Way back last November I attended my first ever moms and babes class.  Those of you who remember the review will recall how much I wondered if I would gain anything from the lessons (being that bear is the baby of 7 kiddies  )


We are now in our 3rd term and Im genuinely concerned what we will do when Bear finishes his last term.

Vanessa has not just become our friend but also one of Bears favourite trusted adults. He spends hours staring at her in class (my boys first crush 😂😂)

We’ve met so many wonderful mommy’s and their amazing bears along the way and made a few lasting friendships.

But the question was always what would bear gain that he wouldn’t get from me at home ?


We started the classes when bear was 8 weeks old. Just a tiny newborn … nine months later I have a confident, social little boy who is not afraid of new people or groups. He is comfortable to leave me and explore his environment and loves playing with the other “babas”


I battled to bond with bear as a newborn . Broken ankle didn’t help either. Whilst I loved and adored my little bear cub I felt distant from him. 

 Our moms and babes classes have given me the chance to connect with bear.  To enjoy his cuddles and have become a special sacred time for just us. 

So much so that my new half day position allows me off on a Thursday to attend lessons. 


Because of this I’m able to be in tune with bears needs and he is a much happier little boy. In fact we are very lucky. We are blessed with a smiling bear constantly.


Bear loves to sing and clap. We use all the songs from his lessons and he now sits in the car chair as we travel doing actions to the songs he knows. 

I love watching how he claps his hands to ‘if you happy and you know it’ or how he tries to play ‘pat a cake ‘ with me .


I find I’m more award of his milestones than I was with the other bears and I’ve noticed he had reached his milestones a lot quicker than normal . 

He seems to grasp concepts very quickly and had developed both a nice attention span (for a baby) and a curiosity about the world around him.

Gross and fine motor

Bear has very strong and well developed gross and fine motor skills.

He crawled and stood early.   I atribute this to his tummy time exercises and the early classes where we aided in baby sitting.

He also has wonderful fine motor  skills and doesn’t struggle with his pincer grip …just ask my cheek that he pinched last week 😂😂


Bear is never bored. 

I find in school I can see the days he isn’t stimulated.  He needs no sleep. After a moms and babes lesson an exhausted bear will often nod off for a nap🙄

We usually reinforce what he’s learnt at home and bear loves to redo the exercises he’s learnt.

Repetition is the key to learning at this age.


Again I always feel safe when a new activity is introduced as I know the program was designed by professionals and the instructors are well trained.

Bears favourites

At the moment bears favourite activities are the action songs, sensory pools and posting boxes.

Moms favourite

Mine have to be the cuddle time while I read him a story and the messy play. There is something too cute in watching a little one squish a new texture between their fingers.

Im greatfull each week that we chose to continue with our lessons.


Shaving cream sensory fun

Bear loves sensory play activities and the mushier the better.

Yesterday after our cloud experiment, we used some of the shaving cream on a cutting board and bear got his fingers all Mooshy rubbing the shaving cream into the board,his leg and the mat …it’s a good thing shaving cream doesn’t stain .


Focus groups

Friday was a particular busy day for me as I find most Fridays are.

Getting started

Bear and I headed to the Tower products focus group in Muizenberg. It’s a long drive from our home in Tableview and we left early to get there on time. Thankfully the school’s were still on holiday and so traffic was minimal.


We arrived half an hour early and grabbed a quick MacD coffee. Watching the clock we waited till 8.20 , i then loaded bear in his pram and we headed to the venue for our next 4 hours.

Immediately as i got to the door , a gentleman opened for us. Which was awesome , as you know its a science all its own just getting the pram through a door you jamming open with your foot.

The smiling receptionist greeted us and within seconds bear and I were seated watching the small river and birds through the large glass windows .

Getting to work

We were soon ushered up to a stunning board room and the other 3 members and myself took our name tags and seats around the large round table, sunlight shone through the glass window panes that spawned the space of the walls.

The amazing vibrant ladies running the group took time to introduce themselves to us and brought us up to speed with some product knowledge.

Focus group

To those not familiar with focus groups , they are basic informal gatherings of a target market where opinions are asked to gather information to aid in marketing of products .

I love focus groups and am like a child at Christmas when invited to participate in one.

I think for me it allows my inner creative streak out and I get to express how I feel, use of my marketing and sales experience ,to share ideas and brainstorm .


As we became more accustomed to one another and less shy we opened up more and very soon ideas, opinions and products were flying across the table between giggles, laughter.

It really was one of the most fun focus groups I’ve attended in a while.

Where was bear?

Well,while this mamna tried to express her thoughts and opinion, bear was crawling under the table , being turned around on the chair, held in my arms , moved from bin and plugs and entertained with his own yellow Toby tower dragon.


Yes ….they feed you too. Lunch was a delicious medley of snacks and sooooooo much cake. Bear tucked into my plate of food and followed lunch with a yummo cream pie.

Goody bags

Just when you thought it doesn’t get better, we were rewarded with stunning Tower product samples in our stylish black and yellow goodie bags,

The best part was inside our bags were little yellow Toby tower dragons to take home and cuddle.