I’ve always been a no screen mom.
Having spent my time trying to pry an ex husband from his Xbox and bribing my older teens to leave the pc or tv and get outside, I’m not a fan of too much technology. I’ve never played an Xbox, Wii, PlayStation or game on my phone or the pc. I also don’t watch tv.
So, it was only natural with little bear that i wasn’t going to allow screen time of any kind .
Who was I kidding ? With teen siblings and a mom who works online I feel I failed before starting 🙈
I’m not even sure I was that amazed at myself when I downloaded his first Ficher Price Apps onto my tab. As an educator I know how influential screen time can be if it’s used correctly.
15 months later , little bear has inherited my tab which he now uses himself, can navigate the tv remote, poses for selfies on my phone and loves watching Barney on YouTube.
Giant parent fail!
But then I sat with a mommy friend the other day and explained how my thinking had changed since I had little bear.
It wasn’t so much about taking these technology items, that form most of our daily lives out of his life, but to expose him to a diverse world and put healthy boundaries in place to teach him balance.
They don’t make this parenting gig easy do they 😣
So how do we do this ?
For me it’s to allow him access and teach him how to use the technology around him but to also show him all the amazing things to do that don’t require a device or app, so that he doesn’t rely on technology to entertain him.
To take him outside as much as I can so that he learns to live the natural world and becomes curious enough to explore the places and things he doesnt know about.
To develop his love of reading so he readily turns to a book to fuel his imagination and to encourage his creativity so that his hands always have something to do.
If we have spent our day learning at school, playing outside, riding our bikes, helping mom cook, ect then a bit of tv or a game on the tab for a half hour is a healthy balance.
He won’t be the child who gets an iPhone at 5 or the the poor boy being babysat by the tv. He wont be the kid handed a tab at the restaurant table so that his parents don’t need to entertain or interact with him.
But if i want him to live like this I need to help him find his balance and set an example.
I also need to acknowledge that the world won’t stand still because I might want it to and that one day he will need the skills to navigate technology at school and work .
It’s my responsibility to help build these skills and encourage his growth.